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Chintan Zalani's avatar

Kyle, thank you for the courage to share something so deeply personal. Your application of Stoic principles - especially 'control what you can' and focusing on present action - in the face of such profound loss is both inspiring and humbling.

Sending love to your family as you continue to carry your daughters' memory forward. And congratulations on your rainbow baby girl :)

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Thank you brother. I really appreciate that.

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Gunther Hammel's avatar

“Losses never leave you.”

❤️‍🩹

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

❤️👊🏻

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Tope Olofin's avatar

Thank you for sharing such a deep and personal story. Thank for also sharing how you were able to navigate it. It’s truly remarkable.

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

I really appreciate that Tope. Thank you 👊🏻

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Genevieve's avatar

Oomph so much heart in this one, thank you for sharing your journey. I love how you weave the stoic teachings to real life adversity here. Bad things will come, but they make the good ones sweeter. You and your wife make a great team, sending so much love to you and your fam and your rainbow baby! 💛🌈

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Appreciate you Gen 👊🏻

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Joshua Ross's avatar

Tore me up something fierce. Grief and joy communalized.

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Appreciate you brother

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Jesse C. McEntee's avatar

Thank you for sharing this story, and I admire your courage. You're a remarkable couple.

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Thank you too brother. Right back at you and yours

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Andres Ruiz's avatar

Much love and good wishes to you and all your family Kyle. Thanks for having the courage to share this personal, deep, and moving and beautifully crafted story. Whenever I write your content, I really feel like there's so much to learn from you. It's not just your resilience and strength, but also your vulnerability to share these kinds of stories and your kindness with all of us writers that are close to you. Really grateful and thankful for all that. You're a great man and role model, Kyle ❤️

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Thank you very much Andres! I feel the same about you 👊🏻

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Gina Hernandez's avatar

Beautiful and honest, thank you. Was very moved. Congratulations on your baby girl, so happy for your family

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Appreciate you Gina. Looking forward to catching up soon

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Michael Woudenberg's avatar

This had me feeling all the feels. It was devastating when we lost our first one. We heard the heartbeat, and when my wife went in for the full ultrasound, the baby was gone. Then we find out that 25% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, and then we start hearing all the stories from those around us. It sucks.

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Yes it does. I’ll never get to a point of being thankful for this most recent one but I also realize that the beautiful face I’m looking at isn’t here today without our prior loss. The possibility of death is always with us, I’ve known this but I’ve also been guilty to forgetting it. These real losses will always stay with us. Attempting to use the losses to honor their and our life is all I can do in order to make what I can control count… appreciate you brother

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Dan Vallone's avatar

Kyle, thank you for the courage and love that empowered you to write such a moving, powerful, and personal story. So much gratitude, love, and joy for you and your family.

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Thank you very much brother. Means a lot coming from you

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Erin Miller's avatar

I’m fairly stoic, but you’ve got me bawling over here. I can’t thank you and Mary Kate enough for sharing your story. The pain of miscarriage is so often invisible—no scars, no clear before and after—just this deep, internal ache that rarely gets the space it deserves. The way you’ve brought that pain into the light, with such care and honesty, will no doubt be a gift to so many—both those who’ve lived it and those who love someone who has.

There’s so much layered into these two pieces. Truly powerful. I’m deeply grateful you wrote them. 🧡

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

And I’m deeply grateful for you my friend. Thank you

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James Freitas's avatar

Thank you, Kyle, for sharing this with honestly as you have. This can not have been easy to write. Often the hardest things to write demand to be written. Congratulations on your little rainbow baby girl.

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Thank you brother. Definitely not easy, but very therapeutic over time

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David Gage's avatar

Well my friend. You know better than anyone how close this landed for me. Your words could have been my own. So glad you expressed it the way that you did. There is much that can be said of loss and grief but one must be willing to transcend to a different place to use this kind of loss and grief as a catalyst for growth, knowledge and gratitude. Proud of you. Proud for you and your family and the most recent addition. Thank you again for sharing.

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Proud of you too my friend and thankful you’re now in my life. Thank you very much. Talk soon.

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Jenny Ouyang's avatar

This is beautiful, Kyle! The words, experiences, and reflections together really moved me.

I’m so happy for you and your baby girl. And you’re absolutely right, the highs feel meaningful because of the lows.

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Thank you Jenny. Appreciate you.

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Lou Tamposi's avatar

Much love brother.

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Right back at you my friend.

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Anne, RD & Avery, CHC's avatar

Beautiful, Kyle. Thank you ❤️

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Kyle Shepard's avatar

Thank you too 👊🏻

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